I feel that my life has been changing exponentially fast recently. Maybe all the hard work will finally pay off, probably in ways I haven’t even thought of yet. A new year is almost here … and I have a distinct feeling that it promises to rock my world as I know it.

Capricorn full moon.  (The exact time of this full moon is 2.13pm on Dec 31st.)   This full moon is also a Lunar Eclipse. Even if we can’t see an eclipse in the sky where we live, these celestial events are renowned for being very powerful in the way in which they can impact our lives.
 
A full moon Lunar Eclipse signifies a time when things come to fruition.  It is the perfect time to let go of something that no longer serves our highest good, whether it be a possession, a habit, a limiting belief, or a relationship.  Eclipses also provide a great opportunity for outward manifestation with life-changing events - sometimes expected, sometimes not - often happening around this time.  As it’s also New Years Eve, the ritual of making resolutions for the coming year - what we want to release and what we want to create - may take on special meaning for us.

So, happy holidays and especially HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Take time now to write down your accomplishments so you can refer to it when you need a little encouragement. Try to feel the excitement of these achievements as you write about them to increase your vibration. Some things you might want to include: 

• 10 Things I love about my life
• 10 Things I feel relief when I think about them:
• I am grateful for:
• What do you like about yourself? Are you smart? Kind? Creative?
• What are your strengths and talents? What are you ridiculously good at?
• Name your three best experiences.
• Name 5 things you did as kid that you loved and did well
• When were you the happiest as a child?
• Name 5 things you have done as an adult that you loved and did very well
• Describe a time when you were working or playing and having so much fun that you lost track of time? What was so great about this experience? What specifically did you enjoy about it?
• When are you currently the happiest?
• What is the best part of your day?

A belief is a thought that we keep returning to. Limiting beliefs block us from manifesting our desires because they are false and come from fear <which is an illusion>, worry and anxiety. We can tell we have a limiting belief by what’s happening in our lives. The less we judge and resist, the more we are connected to intuition which guides us effortlessly from one synchronicity to another. Every time we hit a fear, we either shrink or we expand. The faster we remove our resistance, the faster our dreams come true. One of the biggest reasons people don’t change is safety: we sabotage ourselves if we don’t feel safe. Another is guilt: if we feel guilty about something, we might subconsciously believe we should be punished. We are 95% controlled by subconscious programs gotten from other people which may negate what we consciously want out of life. When we rewrite our limiting beliefs by changing the old programming, our subconscious mind effortlessly responds to the repetition and new habits.

Fears can include future fears < live in the now in gratitude>, fear of failure <get out of your comfort zone>, fear of loss of approval or fear of rejection <learn to love yourself>, or fear of success or loss of control <take calculated risks>. Worry occurs in the past so we are not moving forward <use forgiveness>. Anxiety deals with the consequence of something that has not happened yet and we become restless and doubtful <use unconditional love>.

Best questions to consider when dealing with these issues:

 The upside for staying the same is: _________________

The downside to reaching your goal is: ______________

When we were children, a natural reaction to how we experienced our environment was self judgment. We were innocent, self-centered, dependent on others for survival and vulnerable, and somewhere along the way we learned shame, guilt and fear. These feelings continue from subconscious memories throughout our life until we become aware that our behavior is merely the action of the beliefs from these cycles. Part of the process is to figure out at what age you learned this reactive behavior, and which parent was the greatest source of your behavior. As I learned in Soul Point, you then create your ideal mother and father and use that feeling of unconditional love, inspiration and validation to re-parent yourself. This allows you to come from a safe place that you created to teach your ego compassion: to not judge your judgment, shame your shame or be afraid to feel fear. When feelings and emotions come up, they present perfect opportunities for release and clearing. Be the observer and realize that “Part of me judges, and another part of me is curious about the judgment.” Be grateful for the conscious awareness learned from the shadow side of self judgment.

Our lives are built around beliefs. A belief is basically something you assume and expect but actually don’t know for sure until you experience it for yourself. Beliefs are ideas which the mind endorses even if someone else put them there, and can act as powerful filters that shape your experience. They are thoughts you keep returning to and are often created to support and validate your values. Beliefs are not true by themselves, but if we believe them they become true for us.

It is empowering to understand how you believe rather than what your actual belief is. You are born a tabula rasa <blank slate> and then you are programmed by the truth providers: parents, parent’s friends, the media, church, school, science, relatives, teachers, and anyone or anything that comes in contact with you. Beliefs are nothing more than a batch of similar habitual thoughts <causes>. Attitudes are formed from your beliefs, which are usually either positive or negative toward people or things. Feelings develop from your attitudes, which are either physical or emotional responses to people, places, things, issues, ideas or concepts. These feelings will help determine the actions you take, which in turn determine your results <effects>. If you wind up with a result you don’t want, you need to change your actions <but this will only result in a short-term change>. For real change, you need to go back to the cause <which is the thought/belief>. If you want to improve the results you are getting, you must interrupt the habit of thought and create a new one.

Beliefs can consciously come from observing an aspect of life and then forming an opinion about it. This could lead to a victim mentality that we don’t have a choice and we are not responsible for what happens in our lives. A better way might be to first figure out what you believe and then look for the evidence that supports your belief. We don’t fix a belief: just replace it with a better belief <start from a place that is good or you’ll always be fixing … there is nothing to fix … it you believe you will have it “someday” the universe will keep expanding “someday” and you will never have it. There are two types of beliefs: empowering beliefs and limiting beliefs. Empowering beliefs move you forward, where limiting beliefs hold you back from your desires. When you hear limiting thoughts, delete them and then replace them with a positive affirmation.

It was interesting to see after  doing my values process how some of my values have morphed as I have become wiser.  If you asked me 20 years ago, I would have had efficiency and accuracy and detail-oriented as some of my top values and virtues.  My top 5 now are:   time, authenticity, choice, joy and loyalty.  And trust me, I did a lot of introspection to narrow it down to those 5.  Of course, the top 3 manifestations for each category are:  time <simplicity, systemization, effectiveness>, authenticity <awareness, self-realization, intuition>, choice <freedom, passion, balance>, joy <family/friends, health, nature> and loyalty <trust, quality time, reciprocity>.   Money and security are goals, not values, and are nowhere near my top 10, so I have to figure out a way to resolve this. If you notice, neither is love, but I did the process and it is what it is:  for me, loyalty is more important than love.  What was funny, is that my group really didn’t want to put the time in to do the process; some did, some did not.  But after the meeting, those that didn’t before now see the value <haha> of doing the value process and plan to do it this weekend.  Values are what motivate us to action, so what are your top 5 values? 

I love my life right now. I spent the summer traveling around the world in Chris and AnnMarie’s yacht while writing my 8th book. Their daughters are Sabrina’s best friends, and the girls enjoyed each other’s company all summer on the yacht and at all the ports of call. Derek and Dylan spent the first 2 months traveling through Europe and then joined us for the last month. They are headed back to college to finish up their master’s degrees. It was wonderful spending quality time with them, talking under the stars about their hopes and dreams.

I purchased an island that will serve as my retreat center. I will send my architect there to develop plans for my house and the peripheral buildings for the center. There is a perfect spot for private jets to land their aircraft, as well as a nice cove for boats to dock. The lush tropical and mountain views are magnificent, with waterfalls throughout the property. My house will be situated next to a waterfall with views of a small private lagoon, hidden from view and inaccessible to others. The island is teeming with wildlife and brilliant native flora. Walking trails wind throughout the property, wide enough for golf carts and horses, the only other modes of transportation besides walking.

In the community building, there is a huge kitchen and pantry where my chef will prepare healthy community meals with produce from our expansive organic garden. There is a large meeting and dining room with a fireplace. There are additional smaller meeting rooms for group meetings. On-site there is a movie theater, library, bowling alley, tennis courts, a learning and media center, wireless internet, game room with pool tables and ping pong tables and card tables, healing rooms, yoga and tai chi and dance studio, an art and craft studio with plenty of natural light, exercise rooms, sauna, steam room, hot tubs, multiple swimming pools, canoes, kayaks, a zip line and a stable. There are huge crystals throughout the property, meditation areas, extensive gardens, ponds and pools, a labyrinth, a medicine wheel, huge genesa crystals, sound and light energy tables, and an herbal and aromatherapy center.

There are numerous private cabins throughout the property, as well as a dorm-like structure attached to the community area. There will also be permanent homes for those wishing to have their primary or secondary home on the island. Each one of my children will have a secondary home on the island as well. My loyal and talented staff will schedule the guest speakers and the programs that will run throughout the year.

I schedule a massage daily in my outside gazebo which is fully appointed with every luxury imaginable. I also have a foot massage nightly to relax and pamper me, with reflexology thrown in as needed. My energy levels are high as I write my book, make my travel plans, interact with friends and guests, exercise and eat healthy meals. I meditate and express my gratitude daily in my gorgeous surroundings. I love that I have enough money that when I travel, I am able to help out those I come in contact with by buying their products or services or contributing to their causes.

And finally, I am so thankful that I am madly in love with the love of my life. He is my knight in shining armor and best friend, and he brings out the best in me. He is devoted to me and loves me unconditionally, is attentive to my needs, makes me feel sexy and makes my happiness a priority as I do for him. He appreciates me, admires me, respects me, and supports my vision. Individually we are amazing and together we are unstoppable because we complement each other. Our goals and values are aligned and we make each other better. We have a loving, emotionally open, loyal, trustworthy and affectionate relationship because he gets me. I feel safe, secure and understood when I am with him.

Fears are simply feedback from our inner selves, so we need to respond to the unmet need that triggers them.  By giving in to fear, we are giving away our personal power.  Don’t automatically judge fears as bad, just become aware and explore what is going on.  What is the fear trying to tell you?  Are you in danger?  If so, be thankful for its discernment and protection.  Is more knowledge needed?  Then get it.  Fear is a choice, and totally valid if we are in danger but a hindrance if it doesn’t allow us to grow and stretch and take informed risks.  Fears can isolate us if we are afraid to admit that we are afraid.  Finding a trusted individual that you can talk to is valuable when you need help figuring it all out. 

Is it an old tape playing in your head that someone else put there when you were a child?  Then you need to learn to act rather than react, and I have found affirmations help to re-program your response to fear.  In the process we don’t ask for help, but gratefully accept that we have already overcome the fear.  For example, if we procrastinate out of our fear of failure, we can say:   “I intuitively know what to do first, and I am guided in all subsequent steps by my higher self.  I receive all the support that I need in order to complete this project.” You can further cut this down into a mantra:  “My intuition guides me in all steps to completion.”  Do not use negative words <like not, no, etc> because the universe doesn’t hear the “not.”  Instead of “I will not procrastinate” say “I will easily finish my taxes on time.”   You can also use visualization and see yourself at the end, reaping the rewards of having finished the project.  Another thing you can do is to “feel the fear, but do it anyway.”

A process I have used is to write down whatever comes to mind when you ask yourself “Something I am afraid of is _____”.  Then use stream of consciousness writing without any filters and keep asking the question when you get stuck until you have written everything down.  Remember that if you thought of it there is some issue surrounding it, whether it is a feeling, thought, person or thing.  You can go back later and add more fears as they come up for you.  Look at the list and see where these fears prevent you from joy, how they influence your decisions, how they affect your response to daily living.  These fears are the unconscious result of your life and the people in it but they are not you.  Talk to your fears and tell them you are ready to release them, then take each fear and transform it into an affirmation.    

In Hutt Bush’s “study hall” this week, we were talking about families and how frustrating it is to deal with difficult family members.  When drama threatens to erupt, these are some suggestions made by the group:

• Send them the vibration of love:   with thought energy, it isn’t so important to feel love for the person right now as it is to just think about love in general … the word “love” all by itself has its own energy, so you can spell the word love in your mind: L-O-V-E  L-O-V-E  L-O-V-E  even if you are still too angry to feel it because love is healing in its energetic state
• Use the Ho’oponopono prayer
• Focus on their positive qualities
• Put yourself in their shoes
• Focus on commonality instead of differences
• Use humor
• Don’t react or take it personally
• Choose to let it go
• Use diffusion and misdirection tactics
• Don’t allow yourself to be a victim — just walk away

Always remember, “We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are”  ~Anais Nin

It’s all about choice. The real reason for setting goals is because you become the person it takes to achieve them. Feelings are more important than thoughts, especially a sense of urgency. Three things are needed for goals to succeed: inspiration, motivation, perspiration. Consistency is important: it takes 30 days in a row to retrain the mind and rewire the brain into a new habit. Don’t worry about the details of long-term goals because they may change. Shorter goals give you regular victories and more rewards to keep you motivated. You can always choose to set new goals when you have achieved the original ones. SPECIAL NOTE: never focus on what can go wrong, or on what you DON’T want.

In light of this, I have re-examined my goals to re-focus my intention for the rest of 2009.

Area of focus for the next 4 months: health

Commitment: 

• Use my daily routine checklist to keep on track
• repeat my daily affirmations a few times a day
  • Something wonderful is going to happen today
  • I trust that what I am being guided to do is in my best interests today
  • I expect my unexpected good

• Use timer to do at least one 15 minute project from my project list
• Write in my blog every day
• Write in my gratitude journal every night